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Mary's avatar

I love everything you are planning for this new year Lyn. The book can’t come soon enough for me (God willing, this is the year l become an octogenarian - rather scary!). I bought a new tuxedo and shoes with glittery heels for my Christmas present - I’m ready to dance - if my back doesn’t give out, and to start some serious traveling again. Why a tux? I refuse to cruise with ball gowns in my luggage - I mean come on those trips are holidays! If a tux is good enough for hubby it’s good enough for me.

Happy New Year to you and Calvin.

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Shirley's avatar

I love reading your response. I’m also going to be 70 this year and own a tux 😎. I bought one almost 20 years ago: it’s timeless and always feels just right. I added a couple years ago is a classic black sleeveless jumpsuit for similar events in warmer weather. Happy upcoming birthday

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Lyn Slater's avatar

Love the tux and let’s get to dancing!

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Maryellen Smith's avatar

70 in a couple of weeks here…..I’d love a tux although I do enjoy dressing up in a stunning gown when cruising and have also recently added a black sleeveless jumpsuit to my ever expanding wardrobe. Carry on writing Lyn, I’ve followed you for a while now x

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Anita Darcel Taylor's avatar

I'm 65 and I want a tux.

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Shelley Tween's avatar

An auspicious occasion to reframe, recommit to intention and increase joy. Thanks for the inspiration and community!

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Lyn Slater's avatar

Thank you for being part of it!

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Lesli's avatar

Bravo you, Lyn!

I look forward to reading your posts on How to Be Old as well as the thoughts of your readers.

The topic resonates since I am growing older and seeking wisdom about it.

It occurred to me on this New Year 2023, that aging could viewed as ripening rather than demeaned as a death spiral to be feared.That thought made me smile and I hope it does you too. Happy New Year to you and yours!

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Lyn Slater's avatar

Like any other time of life there are opportunities and challenges, positive and negative events. When you’re old you have more experience and skills to bring to the problem-solving.

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Bella Sera's avatar

there really is so little written about how to old - I am looking forward to your book. In many ways we are the first generation in the workforce (en masse) and the first to experience what it means to move from a career to a new chapter. Having just semi-retired, it is a significant transition to negotiate.

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Lyn Slater's avatar

Completely agree! We are breaking new ground and what an exciting opportunity to re-invent what it means to be old.

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Cat Miller's avatar

Great to hear your path has taken this direction, Lyn!

Reinventing myself and my life on numerous occasions in the past was just confusing, demoralizing, and exhausting. It took til my late 50’s to realize it is a necessary, and welcome, part of a life well lived.

Doing it on the daily.

So happy to be a part of this.

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Lyn Slater's avatar

Wise words, as long as you are reinventing you are moving forward.

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Zanma's avatar

Agreeing that refusing invisibility is a worthy pursuit for we elders, I am enjoying this era of life when I no longer feel obligated to put it out there for others or society. Rather, I choose when to shine and when to fade into the background, and find I am far less exhausted as a result. Loving where you are going, honoring where you've been.

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Lyn Slater's avatar

Perfectly put…we have choices.

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Carrie Christopher's avatar

Happy that my first steps into substack are via the Accidental Icon blog. Thank you for the lovely writing it always is a welcome notice in my inbox.

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Lyn Slater's avatar

Thank you!

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Carolyn's avatar

I “accidentally “ fell upon this and I know nothing much about you but somehow your words I just read resonated with me as I start this new year. I’ll add you to my list of inspirational reads .. all best with your new outlook and format !

Look forward to your weekly postings.

Here’s to 2023 and forging ahead with all that life has to bring!

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Lyn Slater's avatar

Welcome! I am blessed to have a great community which you will benefit from too.

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Elpowley@gmail.com's avatar

Thank you for your reminder to occasionally reframe our lives. Structural frameworks always need to be revisited after personal AhHa moments.

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Lyn Slater's avatar

Indeed!

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Vivien Kennedy Gallop's avatar

I love the ‘line between rebellion and convention’. Especially because you have to. It’s real!

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Lyn Slater's avatar

Always negotiating especially as a woman. Great article about this very thing in the NYT today by Jessica Grose.

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Bonnie Sachs's avatar

oops! one more thing...i love the photograph. there's irony (?) in your baggy shirt vs calvin's abs which could not go unnoticed;). you share that wonderful light. happy new year!

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Lyn Slater's avatar

Ha love that observation!

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Judy C.'s avatar

I love that you’re moving things to the Substack neighborhood; a place I already choose to read meaningful and inspiring content. You speak from the heart and often seem to nail what’s in mine. Wishing you a beautiful new year and chapter!

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Lyn Slater's avatar

Thank you! I’m very happy to be here!

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Christine Rowe's avatar

Here's to your/our shining Light~ Happy New Year

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Lyn Slater's avatar

To us!

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Carolyn's avatar

Bravo, Lyn! Best of luck on Substack. You have influenced me in many ways, mostly in breaking rules about what one should do/wear once over 40. Yay!

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Lyn Slater's avatar

New territory, open for us to design.

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Oknikkij's avatar

Happy 2023!

Can’t wait to read your upcoming essays. I think I kind of lost sight of who I am too.

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Lyn Slater's avatar

Happy to have companionship on the journey back to self.

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Zakiya Alake's avatar

Much success on Substack. I am happy to keep up with you on this platform. Here’s to another year of being visible and active as I turn 67!

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Lyn Slater's avatar

Cheers to that!

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